‘So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. 21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. 23 And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” 24Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.’
From the very beginning, it is clear that God himself initiated companionship and marriage. God orchestrated the act of a Man and a Woman being together. A beautiful relationship leading to marriage. (Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife Genesis 2:24)
There is a pattern here that can translate to; Woman was made from Man by God for Man.
Man sees woman, Man loves woman, Man courts woman, and Man marries Woman. After which;
Woman will be man’s helper (Partner in all aspects of life)
Woman will unite with her Man (Lover and friend)
Woman will bear the children (mother and homemaker)
A woman should not be seen as a weaker or lesser person because she was taken from Man. Instead, a woman should be seen as a beautiful, feminine and elegant being created by God for a purpose. God made woman to be more feminine than man as can be seen in her softer features, smaller frame and softer voice.
When a child is born, the differentiating features between a boy and a girl as I have noted above are not quite obvious. The only distinguishing parts between them are the private parts. However, as both male and female start to grow older, their features start to develop and the distinguishing qualities that God has created both parties with become more and more obvious. The woman’s shape becomes more defined and she begins to develop in other parts of her body. She becomes more attractive and others start to notice these changes in her too. Just as visible changes are taking place, there are many others that are not quite visible to others.
There are hormonal as well as emotional changes occurring. She begins to notice MAN and she begins to want to be liked by MAN. This is a very important stage in the life of a woman. She begins to crave the companionship and relationship that has been initiated by God. She wants to be complete.
Being made complete in a Godly manner is very important and it involves a Godly process. Every woman wants to be loved, a woman wants to be a helper, she wants to support and be supported. A woman wants to be courted. A woman wants her own Man. A woman wants a man she can trust with her feelings and emotions. A woman wants her KING.
A KING lives in a palace and his QUEEN is adored and loved by him. She trusts her king with her emotions, her aches, pain and joy. In the same manner, a woman in turn should be her man’s helper and companion. She should be that other half of him that he can also trust with his emotions, weaknesses and joy.
When growing up as a young girl, I read a lot of romance books. I was always fascinated by how a man would fall in love with a lady, court her, marry her and then live with her happily ever after. This was always a beautiful picture. The part of the book that I loved reading the most was when the man would eventually profess his love to the woman and she in turn would tell him how much she loved him.
What these novels failed to tell me and many other women who were hooked on them is what “happily ever after’ really meant. I guess that was left for the reader’s own imagination. Well, I figured out my “happily ever” very well. It was this picture of my knight in shining armor and me in this beautiful home that we would settle in after he had swept me off my feet and married me. I saw a happy family with a few children running around. I saw my husband and I strolling hand in hand most evenings looking at the stars. Yes, it was a beautiful picture alright. It was what I wanted and it was what was going to happen I believed. After all, why would so many authors write about these stories if they were not happening every day I asked myself?
It was with this frame of mind that I started college. So, when in college, I was very ready for my knight in shining armor. I wanted it to happen the way it did in the books that I had spent many years reading. As a result, every time some young man would ask me out, I would always compare it to the fictitious books that I had spent many years reading, I wanted my story to be just like those in the books.
I was excited when the closest encounter similar to those in my novels with a young man happened. I was very happy. Yes! I said to myself. I was getting very close to my happily ever after. I could just see it; my handsome husband and me in our home with our children, entertaining our guests, going to work, enjoying life, loving each other and being very happy. Priceless! I thought.
Yes, we did get married, yes, we had a beautiful home, yes, the beautiful children came and yes, we had our friends and family. But we were not quite living happily. There were fights, arguments, unkind words, deceit, anger and sadness to name a few.
What happened I said to myself? This is not what those books said. They always said happily ever after. That is correct; those books never really said anything. They said ‘happily ever after’. The rest of the story was left for you to complete. Everyone completed the book with their own imagination.
“Imagination’…a place you can be you, a place where everything is possible. A place you can be in control and run the show. Your own world! Your own story that defines your happiness and what brings you happiness.
Well, what I wanted and what was happening were two different things. I tried to have a happy married life. Yes, I loved my husband, I respected and trusted him and I was going to be the best wife ever I told myself, still it was not enough. What was happening here I would ask myself and this went on for many years? My ex-husband and I were never truly happy. There were seasons were we would be happy, but these seasons did not last long.
I finally came to the conclusion that there was something missing, the most important person was missing; GOD; His Word, his Counsel, his Love, and most of all, his Promises. I did not have a relationship with God. Yes, a relationship! Although I had attended church for a very long time, but I had failed in all of those years to know God for whom he really is.
I lacked a personal relationship with God that only I could develop. It was a personal thing. As much as I enjoyed the weekly sermons at church, they could not and did not make up for my personal time with God. To know God more, I needed to read the bible daily and try as much as possible to practice what it taught me. I need to know God for me.
This is the reason why “Promises kept” is ministry for single women who choose to rely on the Promises of God by forming a personal relationship with him. It is ministry that will use Scripture to help them in their day to day life. It will remove their focus from ordinary things and help them to concentrate on the things of God. The Word of God will encourage them daily and help each of them to overcome every obstacle they may face while being single.
Founder, Promises Kept Minstry; God’s Promises, Your Promises…..Preparing you for your PALACE