There is a need for every woman to be transparent to herself when in a relationship. By this I mean it is important for women to be true to themselves when dating a man, especially if they are both believers. The mistake many women make is to cover up for a man who does not treat her right (respect, love and affection). A woman needs to watch our for the signs. My husband of nine years still opens the car door for me. I remember when he first started to court me, I had a very hard time with the concept because I was not accustomed to such an action. I would be out of the car before he reached my door. I finally had enough wisdom to stop myself and allow him to be the gentle man he was. I had to train myself to count to ten every time my husband parked the vehicle as this gave him enough time to get to my side of the car. Believe me, if I had continued to open the door myself, he would have become used to it and stopped doing it for me. Why not allow yourself to be treated like a queen I asked myself? Can you believe that this meant some work on my part? Yes, work! It was new to me and I had to train myself to accept and enjoy it. For someone who was previously in an abusive relationship, this kind of display of affection and respect was something that I was not used to. Opening the car door for me reminds me constantly that I am a loved woman and this shows when I walk into a restaurant, store or church. It makes it very easy for me to walk with dignity.
I have talked to a lot of women who have told me that they allowed some things that were questionable in their relationship because they wanted the relationship to work out well. A common example is their boyfriend pressuring them to have sex. Another common one is a man raising his voice at them and making them terrified. Know the signs ladies, if a man exhibits an action that makes you uncomfortable, it is okay to talk to him about it and hopefully, he will realize that it is a problem, If you however let it go and it is not dealt with immediately, it is only going to get worse. It is easier to stop a relationship that has not gone very far than to end one that has be going on for a long while.
Please understand that this matter is for single women in the church.